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Female Crucible
From Surviving to Thriving: Breaking the Silence
Crucible living is, in many ways, a result of the first whisper in the Garden. When Adam shifted the blame onto Eve, he created a crucible of his own making—one defined by survival and defense. But that was not God’s intent. While the world may try to keep us in a cycle of "blame and survive," God’s refining process is designed to restore us.
As women, we must ask: How do we move from the place where society puts us to the place where God wants us?
The "Thaddeus" Shadow
Like many of my sisters, I learned early how to survive as a woman. I was born into a world where my father wanted a son named Thaddeus Quentin. Instead, he got me.
For decades, whenever I accomplished something he believed only a man should do, his response was always the same: “You should have been a boy!”
It hurt. My successes weren't celebrated; they were diminished or resented. I spent forty years trying to walk in my father's shoes, only to find he wasn't happy I was there. I was surviving, but I wasn't living.
The Turning Point
The shift from survive to thrive happened in my 50s. After hearing that familiar refrain once more, I finally found my voice:
“Dad, no! You should be thankful that I am a woman who can do all these things. Your sons aren't here—I am, and I can help.”
The cycle broke that day. He never said it again. In the years that followed, he learned to show appreciation, and eventually, he apologized for the years of diminishment.
Reclaiming the Crucible
There is a hard truth in the crucible: You get what you allow. We begin to thrive the moment we stop accepting negative treatment as our identity.
As children, we learn to survive because we must. But as adults, we have the power to take control. We can change our responses, affect change in others, and finally thrive in the very fires that were meant to consume us.
Are you ready to stop surviving and start thriving? Let’s explore the ways to accomplish that together.
El armario de Kimi, Inc.., es una organización sin fines de lucro propiedad de Kimberly Skinner, mi hija a quien le diagnosticaron cáncer de mama. Mientras se preparaba para el tratamiento, su médico le dijo que no había una causa identificable para su cáncer. “Entonces Dios, ¿por qué? ¿Por qué lo tengo? ¿Qué hice para merecer este dolor, este sufrimiento? Mientras Kimi luchaba y oraba, comenzó a liberar su viaje hacia su Creador e hizo esta petición:
"Entonces dale un propósito a mi vida". En los días posteriores a esa solicitud, nació el concepto de “Kimi's Closet”. “Kimi's Closet” porque los armarios siempre la fascinaron. Siempre había algo que podía encontrar para usar, algo para pedir prestado, especialmente en el armario de su hermana o en el mío, algo que le brindaba felicidad. Y, en su recorrido por los tratamientos contra el cáncer de mama, descubrió que hay muchas mujeres que no tienen recursos. Están tan abrumados por el diagnóstico que no tienen tiempo ni energía para investigar y encontrar la ayuda que tanto necesitan.
El armario de Kimi, Inc., fabrica y envía bolsas de confort a mujeres y hombres diagnosticados con cáncer de mama. Cada bolsa contiene cosas que a Kimi le resultaron útiles, cosas que espera que brinden consuelo a los demás, cosas que les brinden felicidad. Cada bolsa cuesta $10 (envío incluido). Las bolsas estarán disponibles a través de The Crucibles y deEl armario de Kimi, Inc.. El cien por ciento de lo recaudado se destinará a mantener las valijas destinadas a los cientos de personas que las soliciten.
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